I am often asked how exactly I apply the Universal Law of Attraction to parenting. If you are not familiar with the principles of the Law of Attraction, this is a fair question. There are 3 Main Components to Law of Attraction Parenting.
Let’s begin by reviewing the basic principles of the Law of Attraction in general terms.
Because we live in a universe of attraction and we know that everything (including us) is a vibration, the Universal Law of Attraction is based on a matching or alignment of vibrations. Therefore, whatever vibration we put forth is the basis of what we will create or receive. Negative or positive.
The Law of Attraction is the very foundation of science and medicine, as stated in Newton’s Third Law of Physics.
“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
The Law of Attraction is the Universal Law upon which all
major religions were founded.
“What you sow, you will reap.”
So, let’s apply this to raising our children.
When you think about parenting what is the first thing that comes to your mind?
- Difficult job?
- Hard work?
The truth is we all have those thoughts from time to time, yes even me! ‘In the moment’ fleeting thoughts are not in our control. They often reflect a knee-jerk reaction to a specific situation. And most of the time a split-second inner dialogue quickly replaced by a positive thought is all that is needed to keep us on track.
But if when thinking about parenting a negative description comes to mind first, reflecting your parenting experience as a whole, my friend, there is a problem. However it is not a problem that cannot be fixed.
Let’s go back to the definition of the Law of Attraction. If you are putting forth thoughts and feelings of ‘difficult’ or ‘hard’ or ‘frustrating’ you are sending out a negative vibration.
And here is the real kicker… The universe does not judge, agree/disagree or filter your vibration. It only matches your vibration, therefore giving you back exactly what you sent out!
For example, how often do you hear yourself say, ‘Here we go again!’ or ‘He ALWAYS ____!' (you can fill in the blank) Or perhaps you resist something because in your mind you are thinking ‘That NEVER works.’ I am sure as you think about it more examples will come to mind. These types of thoughts and feelings in effect predetermine the outcome before it even occurs. When you think, feel or say ‘never’ or ‘always’ guess what vibration you are setting yourself up to receive? More of the same!
The point is to understand that our power to create positive experiences with our children begins with our willingness to change how we think, feel and speak. In other words, change the vibration you are sending forth about your parenting journey to reflect what you do want rather than what you don’t want!
Some will say ‘But parenting IS difficult, hard and frustrating!’ And my response to them is that it is also rewarding, joyous and fulfilling and you have a choice as to which thoughts you focus on.
Many times people get hung up on wanting to compare what they believe is ‘reality’ and what the Law of Attraction dictates. Some say it is a ‘Pollyanna’ approach and feels like denial. When we are feeling frustrated how can we ignore that? Again, we cannot control thoughts that come into our mind but we can decide and choose which ones we will focus on and which ones we will dismiss.
This is the core of a healthy ‘Parenting Mindset’. Parents are human beings too and because of that we are all susceptible to human emotions. Sometimes those emotions are automatic reactions rather than thought out responses. And that is where our power comes into play…Our power to choose to accept and go with the automatic reaction or take a moment, examine our thoughts and then decide what our thoughts and beliefs and response will be.
An inner dialogue might go something like this:
A negative reactionary thought might be ‘Stop watching television! I told you to clean your room; You Never do what I ask you to do!’
However, when you take a moment before reacting you realize that his favorite television show was coming on just as you asked him to clean his room and in all actuality the last time he cleaned his room he did really well! Therefore, a positive response might be ‘I can see that you are enjoying that television program so as soon as it is over I really need you to clean your room.’
Choosing to see what is positive and good in your children rather than what needs to be improved or corrected puts you in a healthy position to attract more of what is positive and good.
3 Main Components of Law of Attraction Parenting:
1. Your thoughts: Our thoughts stir specific feelings inside of us. They often stem from the way we were raised and how we perceive the world and people around us. For this reason parents are encouraged to examine their beliefs in order to ensure they are not operating out of a belief that is limiting. Changing our thoughts is a matter of choice.
2. Your feelings: Our feelings generate actions in response to our thoughts. When we think something is negative we feel negatively towards it. The way we feel about something affects our attitude and approach. Changing our feelings begins with changing our thoughts.
3. Your words: The words we choose reflect both our thoughts and feelings. When we become aware of the thoughts and feelings that many refer to as limiting beliefs, release them and then choose to replace them with what is positive, positive words will follow. Parents must choose their words wisely, they have the ability to harm or help…either way they cannot be taken back.
When the thoughts, feelings and words you choose when relating to your children are positive, uplifting and nurturing you are placing your vibration at a level of attraction that will be met with more of what is positive.
Having said that however, it is very important to understand that parents are not the only ones given the power to choose! Each and every one of us is blessed with this power beginning at birth. What that means is that when the Universe responds by aligning with your positive thoughts, feelings and words your child also has the power to choose to accept what is offered and respond in a way that is positive or not!
But, because we also know that children learn from what they see in us this is where it is the parent’s job to guide your child to see the value in approaching life in a cooperative, positive manner and wanting to be a positive force in his own right.
There are several ways to inspire children to want to reach toward positivity. But I will save that for another article!
I would love to hear your thoughts and questions on Law of Attraction Parenting, please leave your comment below!
And in the meantime, take a moment to examine, identify and release limiting beliefs in your life in order to guide your children from a 'healthy parenting mindset'. To help you do this I have written The Missing Secret To Parenting.
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Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coach, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 125 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention in over 24 countries.
Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her with an understanding of her value as an individual, her innate power to choose by way of her thoughts, ideas, opinions and beliefs, thus, instilling in her a strong sense of personal responsibility for what happens in our lives
She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, a company dedicated to helping parents release parenting paradigms of the past and consciously choose to raise their children to approach life with a positive mindset and strong sense of self. It is Denny’s passion to combine what she learned through her formal education in early childhood education and psychology and what her parents instilled in her and pass this on to all parents.
Denny has created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book which now has over 600 members. She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working in the parent coaching field. Denny Hagel is the author of the newly published "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "The C.P.R. Program for Parents & Teens: Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula", "Mini-Me Syndrome" and two free e-booklets “Parenting Using the Law of Attraction” and “Becoming an Awakened Parent".