• http://twitter.com/thekidscoach Naomi Richards

    Denny I think you are right in saying we are getting better at this as there is so much work going on in schools to do with E.I and naming feelings etc. It is important as children need to recognise their own feelings and those of others too so they can help/understand.

  • Dawn Lanier

    Excellent points Denny! I quite agree that the path to success IS paved with healthy communication skills. Teaching children how to do this effectively also makes them good critical thinkers, which is a trait shared by all successful people.

  • Meire Weishaupt

    I feel that when we can not express our thoughts and feelings to the kid, it is more difficult to teach them to be open and listening to us. Well said Denny, your post shows the exactly sequence that our actions should follow! Thank you!

  • Pat Moon

    This is something I am still working on and hopefully I’m getting better at it. Being able to communicate our own thoughts, feelings, and ideas increases our ability to build positive relationships with those around us. Thanks for sharing this, Denny.

  • Alexandra McAllister

    Excellent post, Denny. Communication is key. Being open and communication with our children shows them the path to express themselves. It’s the way to go to build a strong relationship. Thanks for always sharing such helpful tips and info! God bless!

  • http://www.facebook.com/meryl.hershey.beck Meryl Hershey Beck

    Teaching children to communicate their feelings with words can go a long way in fostering a positive self esteem an aids the child in being able to express themselves as they get older. Great information!

  • Robin Pisciotta

    Fabulous tips! It’s so great to see parents putting so much effort into raising children correctly. Have you ever read “the 5 Love Languages”? It’s a great book and your posts remind me a lot about that book :)

  • http://twitter.com/danisdecadent Daniele Holmberg

    This is a great article for communication skills that I think some adults need to read as well. If we can get our children on a positive communication track, I think future relationships will be healthier all the way around and divorce rates will drop. :)

  • http://twitter.com/GaryHyman Gary Hyman

    You’re amazing Denny. I always learn something new from every time I read your posts. I especially loved that you mentioned “…our thoughts, feelings and ideas belong to us…they are OUR thoughts and feelings and opinions. And that does not make them a fact for anyone else.”. So true and well said. A perfect way not to project feelings onto another person – both child and parent. Thanks for sharing.

  • Delia

    Timely post for me! I’ll have to repeat to myself that sentence about communicating from a place of ownership. It’s what I am asking my kids to do but need to make sure I “walk my talk”. Thanks, Denny!

  • http://twitter.com/kimgarst Kim Garst ツ

    Learn something of value every time I drop in, Denny! Today’s take away for me was “It is important to teach children that the first rule of thumb is to always remember that our thoughts, feelings and ideas belong to us…they areOUR thoughts and feelings and opinions. And that does not make them a fact for anyone else.” Love this!

  • http://twitter.com/NormaDoiron Norma Doiron ´*•჻.

    Great article Denny! These skills are not just for kids but for us as well. :)

  • Shari

    This reminds me of the need to help kids parse out feelings from thoughts, since it’s so easy (for adults and kids alike) to confuse the two. Good read, Denny, as always!

  • Carele Belanger

    Fantastic Denny! You know exactly how to communicate with children and you are a gift!

  • http://www.facebook.com/franniego Frances García O’Brien

    Sheesh! Lots of adults can learn from this post! I specially loved when you said that our feelings are our own, and they shouldn’t be projected to others, and the rephrasing of “You hurt my feelings by…” to “I felt sad whe you said…”.
    That was great!

  • http://twitter.com/DrMommy DrDaisyS

    Love, love, your work but you already knew that ;) I’m so glad I came across this post because believe it or not I’m experiencing issues with one of my children and communication is something that I have always stressed in our household. More importantly owning up to their feelings, thanks so much for the validation that what I’m doing is the right thing:) Hugs!

  • Forrest Graves

    Communication is so vital! This is a great post and a topic worth expanding upon!

  • http://twitter.com/suegraber Sue Graber

    Great article Denny! Good communication in any relationship is important. I liked what you said about teaching our children to really listen with respect for the other person; amazing how this could change relationships and ultimately our world!

  • http://twitter.com/TheChefKatrina Chef Katrina

    Communication is sooo important. Not having any kids yet… I still know the importance of communication. Thank you!

  • http://assistsocialmedia.com/ Pauline Magnusson

    And step 5 – modeling this in how we communicate with others, no matter their age. :) Love your article, Denny!

  • Vicky

    Great article Denny. I especially liked your example #3. Thank you.

  • http://twitter.com/EdmundSLee Edmund Lee

    Love the tips Denny. Communication and owning of one’s emotion rather than projecting it to anyone else are really important for a harmonious relationship. Choice of words is the key! =)

  • Lorii Abela

    Excellent advise
    Denny, building a healthy communication in the family is a must and your
    strategies are a good start. Thanks for sharing.

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  • Muskan ruchandani

    Thank you Denny for your valuable article.I am sure to execute these ideas and hope they would help me to strengthen my relationship with my son

  • Abel Chukwu

    This is amazing and eye opener, am child teacher this has added to my information to child parenting. It is a useful information for every parent or intending parents

  • lee

    Excellent article! Would you explain your use of the word ‘couching’ … I’m just not sure what you mean. Would really appreciate it.

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