• http://twitter.com/AnastasiyaDay AD VirtualAssistance

    Sadly I did 
    witness a parent verbally mistreating their children in public..Denny, thanks for sharing this post with us!

  • http://www.thechoicedrivenlife.com Olga Hermans

    Denny, this story really touched my heart.  Although I have never done what you did, but this is exactly what I will do next time. I always felt so sorry for a situation like that and I know people need help. We better step out like you did! Thanks!

  • Donovan Grant

    Awesome story Denny. Care, support and love is so important for parents too! Just because we are grow up doesn’t mean the we stop being human and experiencing challenges in life. That’s a great message about how a simple smile can make a big fifference to a strangers day!!

  • http://twitter.com/CarolGiambri Carol Giambri

    Denny, yes, yes.  Too often seen parents lose their cool. It didn’t have to be spanking cool, but emotional damage–name calling they do.  Parents many times don’t realize the emotional scars by emotional abuse.  Yikes. Thanks.

  • http://www.travelwritingpro.com/ Claudia Looi

    Wow, I’ve just learned a lesson here Denny. This statement goes deep for me “I
    just wanted to thank you for smiling at me rather than judging me. It
    was just the touch of humanity I needed to get my attention as to how I
    was making my son feel by being so hurtful toward him.” Thank you.

  • http://twitter.com/CoachJennifer Jennifer Bennett

    Love this Denny!  What a difference we can make in the life of someone by just offering our help rather than our judgement. I think every parent has lost it at one point or another and many times, they just need a tender word from someone, someone telling them that it’s going to be ok. I’m so impressed with you and your heart Denny!  You are impacting the lives of many! 

  • http://www.positivecalm.com/ Solvita

    Thank you Denny, love this article. We as parents want the best for our children, but so often neglect our own needs… and feel stressed, not good enough, tired, angry, resentful… and children are like mirrors, so they usually feel our energy well, the last thing needed here is to add negativity… and so smile, encouraging voice and acceptance with love are the best medicine to help someone rise above and gain control over the emotions… You are so brilliant Denny! :)

  • http://micheletremblay.com/ Michele M Tremblay

     One thing I am particularly sensitive to is when children are crying in the grocery store. Often, I think the parents get overwhelmed because they think others will be critical but because they need the groceries, they must stay and finish the job of shopping. When my twins were babies, I found myself in that position more than once. It never felt good to have the disapproval of the other patrons. Your solution to offer a smile is just brilliant. 

  • Dee

    What a fabulous post Denny. I loved how much you showed you cared instead of judging this poor woman. As a mum myself I know that I have been guilty of taking my frustrations out on my children. We can only do the best job we can and just be mindful of our behaviour. If we don’t like how we treat our children them it is up to us to change it. Thanks to you Denny for helping parents to do this. Keep up your amazing work.
    Dee :) xo

  • Anonymous

    What a beautiful story, Denny! I had tears in my eyes when I read that she came up to you to thank you. Great job for making a difference in that mom’s life. Parenting is such a hard job when you are married and have support, I can’t imagine doing it by myself!

  • Diane Dolinsky-Pickar

    Denny, this was a really powerful story, because I have been that screaming mother, albeit more often at home than in public (although I have lost my cool there, too, on occasion!. You are so right… just exhibiting concern for the parent can make a parent feel better. Recently, I had a situation where a friend told me what a laggard I was for not doing something that she deemed essential. In fact, in my approach to parenting–and there are plenty of different, valid approaches–I think that there are many ways to handle kids, and many different approaches can be effective. So, let’s all lighten up and try to see what others are doing as a reflection of their choices, and not a screen by which to judge them. I think your story reinforces this notion, rigidity will get us no where. Mutual support is where its at. As we step in and support parents as well as kids, we will all be better off.

  • http://www.thekidscoach.org.uk/ Naomi

    I have not been in this type of situation but I always kind of give an empathetic smile to the parent. It is not nice losing it. I have in the past once offered advice to a parent  – ie suggested a different approach and they were happy to recieve it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks for sharing your insights Diane, I can’t help but think about Hilary Clinton’s words…”it takes a village”…we as parents need all the support we can get!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I appreciate your kind word Dee:)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks for commenting Michele…I totally agree that many times the fear of being judged is what is at the core of the frustration. There really is so much power in a smile:)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Well said Solvita! Thanks for commenting and for the kind words!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    You have made my day with such kind words Jennifer! Thank you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I appreciate your insights Donovan. Thanks for stopping by and commenting:)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I agree Carol, especially that many parents don’t realize the impact they have on their children…BUT it is my intention and passion to change that with as many parents as I can!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Glad to hear that this impacted you and motivates you to offer the same! WooHoo!

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