Have Fun…Connect With Your Children!

by denny hagel on August 8, 2010

iStock 000002538540XSmall Ice Cream 150x150 Have Fun...Connect With Your Children!Do you ever feel like the days and weeks go by and you haven’t really connected with your children? Some of you might not even remember the last time you laughed with your children…

Let’s face it, with the pressure of work schedules and commitments and the children’s school and social activities, it's a wonder that at the end of the week we even know our own names! Sometimes it seems like the divide between us grows wider and wider as time goes by, yet we know we are spending every waking moment “doing” all we know to do for them. Life goes on and the days blend into weeks and weeks into months…going through the motions of “life”.  Many will become anxious about the type of relationship that exists with their children.

If this sounds like life in your family, it is time to surprise your children and shake things up a bit!

Serve them dessert for dinner! Now, this may not seem like a big deal at face value, but the impact of even such a small gesture will send a message to your children that YOU are capable of FUN! And we all know what children are drawn to and want 24/7…FUN!

We have done this in our family since our children were in kindergarten (about 8 yrs ago). One day on the way home from school, I asked them what they wanted for dinner. My granddaughter, Kaitlyn, (age 5 at the time) said, “Ice Cream!”…and of course I said, ‘Well that would be silly, what would we have for dessert?” My grandson, Zach, (age 4 at the time) replied in his sweet little giggling voice, “Hamburgers!” We all laughed, shared the idea with their Papa, and then agreed that from that day forward Fridays would be known as “Silly Day” at our house. And so it is even as we speak, 8 years later.

It helped them see us in a different light…we became flexible in their eyes. Because of this small change in our weekly routine our entire family gained something to look forward to sharing. Over the years, we have added a few fun aspects to “Silly Day”. We take turns deciding what dessert and dinner will be and we are relaxed about what time we eat…Sometimes we have “dinner” mid afternoon and “dessert” later in the evening. It has become something that keeps us connected in a fun way.

Creating a “Silly Day” in your home is just one example of how parents can step into their children’s world and re-connect with them on their level. I am sure many of you will have other just as effective ways. The point is not what you do; the point is to do something to lessen the divide…something that puts you on the same page as your children in their eyes.

All parents want to enjoy a connected relationship with their children. After all, for most of us parents, their happiness and well being is our primary focus. The truth is what children want most is the same thing…to feel connected to us.

Creating a connected relationship through something as minor as “Silly Day” is none the less a connection. And it will serve as a foundation to build an even stronger bond and relationship that will one day get you both through the bumps in the road. Get creative, use your imagination and find a way to laugh, play, or just be silly with your children…even if it is just for one meal a week!
 

denny pic21 Have Fun...Connect With Your Children!Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coach, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 125 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention in over 24 countries.

Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her with an understanding of her value as an individual, her innate power to choose by way of her thoughts, ideas, opinions and beliefs, thus, instilling in her a strong sense of personal responsibility for what happens in our lives

She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, a company dedicated to helping parents release parenting paradigms of the past and consciously choose to raise their children to approach life with a positive mindset and strong sense of self. It is Denny’s passion to combine what she learned through her formal education in early childhood education and psychology and what her parents instilled in her and pass this on to all parents.

Denny has created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book which now has over 600 members.  She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working in the parent coaching field. Denny Hagel is the author of the newly published "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "The C.P.R. Program for Parents & Teens: Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula", "Mini-Me Syndrome" and two free e-booklets Parenting Using the Law of Attraction and Becoming an Awakened Parent".





 


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