Parents Wanting to Empower Children Are At a Crossroad
Parents who want to empower children essentially need to begin letting go… The word “empower” is floating around the parenting community quite a lot these days. When speaking about educating their children about the principles of the law of attraction most are in favor of it.
Parents welcome the concept of wanting to empower children with the skills to think positive thoughts, choose positive actions, and be grateful for what they have in their life. However, as you go further into the meaning and purpose of children having an understanding of the law of attraction in their lives, they tend to hesitate. Actually letting go of control and allowing their child to make their own choices is uncomfortable to say the least.
Even though allowing children to make choices that do not always produce successful results is necessary for them to grow and learn, control over these kinds of situations is an area of contention.
Many are uneasy with relinquishing their power in their child’s life and supporting the real premise of the law of attraction which is that we all are responsible for and in control of our own lives, what happens in it, and what we experience.
For the most part, the fear of relinquishing power that many parents feel reflects the way they were raised. This new approach to parenting that inspires and encourages a child to follow his own path in life and create his own journey is appealing yet at the same time is completely foreign to how they grew up. And so parents feel an inner tug of war taking place.
Instinctively parents know to move forward in their thinking is what makes sense and what is in the best interest of their child. However, their beliefs from their own upbringing act as an anchor that keeps them stuck in “old school” ways of raising their children.
When parents empower children they teach their children about their power in their own lives, guiding them to be aware of it and encouraging them to use it.
While it might mean your child will make choices that are not necessarily in line with your preferences, it also means that they will acquire the skills to be confident, courageous in their convictions, enjoy a healthy self-esteem, and assume responsibility for their choices and actions.
“Empowering” children does not mean that they will no longer need parents or respect them. The criteria of your role is simply adjusted from being a controller in your child’s life, making choices and decisions for him, to being your child's biggest supporter, best role model, and most of all their number one source of unconditional love.
As today’s parents come to this crossroad in parenting, the most important thing to remember is that an empowered child will become an adult who can and will create a life he truly wants. It will be a life carved out of his own preferences and choices.
Isn’t that what all generations have always wanted for their children?
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Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coach, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 150 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention in over 28 countries.
Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her with an understanding of her value as an individual, her innate power to choose by way of her thoughts, ideas, opinions and beliefs, thus, instilling in her a strong sense of personal responsibility for what happens in our lives
She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, a company dedicated to helping parents release parenting paradigms of the past and consciously choose to raise their children to approach life with a positive mindset and strong sense of self. It is Denny’s passion to combine what she learned through her formal education in early childhood education and psychology and what her parents instilled in her and pass this on to all parents.
Denny has created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book which now has nearly 600 members. She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working in the parent coaching field. Denny Hagel is the author of the newly published "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "The C.P.R. Program for Parents & Teens: Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula", "Mini-Me Syndrome" and two free e-booklets “Parenting Using the Law of Attraction” and “Becoming an Awakened Parent".