- IF your child obeys-does what he is told-he is considered a “good” kid.
- IF he has his own ideas and perceptions, he is considered defiant and uncooperative.
- 1. Don’t Tell…Ask!
When you speak to your child ask them for their help, ideas or opinions rather than telling them what you believe they should think or do. Incorporate the same respect in your choice of words, tone and manner that you wish to receive from them.
- 2. Accept choices that are different than what you would choose!
Children need to be able to choose based on their own preferences. You may like to read sitting in a chair but your child might prefer lying on the floor! You might really enjoy a meat and potato diet but your child might feel better eating salads.
- 3. Offer options rather than orders!
When your child faces a challenge offer options and guidance to help him choose what feels right to him rather than ordering him to do what you think is best.
- 4. Honor differences!
When differences between you and your child are established, honor those differences. Be careful not to negate his preferences. It is through the process of establishing who we are and being allowed to be who we are that builds self-esteem.
- 5. Celebrate uniqueness!
We are all unique individuals and like to be respected as such. Show interest and enjoyment in the unique qualities in your child. Being loved unconditionally is the single greatest gift a parent can give to a child.
BE the Best Parent YOU Can Be
Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coach, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 150 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention in over 24 countries.
Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her with an understanding of her value as an individual, her innate power to choose by way of her thoughts, ideas, opinions and beliefs, thus, instilling in her a strong sense of personal responsibility for what happens in our lives
She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, a company dedicated to helping parents release parenting paradigms of the past and consciously choose to raise their children to approach life with a positive mindset and strong sense of self. It is Denny’s passion to combine what she learned through her formal education in early childhood education and psychology and what her parents instilled in her and pass this on to all parents.
Denny has created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book which now has nearly 600 members. She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working in the parent coaching field. Denny Hagel is the author of the newly published "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "The C.P.R. Program for Parents & Teens: Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula", "Mini-Me Syndrome" and two free e-booklets “Parenting Using the Law of Attraction” and “Becoming an Awakened Parent".