The Parenting Notes~A Mother’s Legacy

 

 

Do you recall hearing the saying "There is a reason for everything, nothing happens by accident."? Typically these words are spoken in reaction to an unpleasant or unwanted event or situation. The purpose is to soothe feelings of being upset…to lessen the negative feelings and provide a positive perception, even when we can't clearly see one.

I realize that many things have come full circle in my life. Those of you who are frequent visitors here and follow my work know much of what is at the core of my ideas, thoughts and beliefs about parenting came from my mother. As I have shared before, my mother raised me in an extremely unconventional way for the time. I was taught that I could direct my life in whatever direction I chose based on the choices and decisions I made.

I especially remember the half-smile expression on my mother's face when she would remind us, "There are consequences with every choice, only you can determine if they will be positive or negative!" It was her way of saying, "Choose what you want, just know that you will receive the consequences and if they are unpleasant…I will not bail you out!"

Both of my parents put their energy into guiding me through exploring options to help me make choices that felt right for me, however, they were adamant that I must be allowed to experience the results of my choices in order to learn...and somehow I knew this was because they loved me. In retrospect I think I knew this because during the times that I made choices that did not have a great outcome, my parents were always there to hug me and support me…many times crying along with me. Never judging, only comforting.

As I sit here now as a grandmother raising my two teenage grandchildren, looking back at my childhood years, it seems almost predictable that I would be where I find myself today…Driven by an incredibly powerful deep loving passion to help all parents raise their children with the same wisdom my mother had…

That's not to say she was perfect, far from it. My mother regularly made mistakes. The reason I know that is because she was quick to share with me and my siblings when she did. That is what I believe set her apart from most other parents. She exposed her truth while maintaining an attitude of being open to learn to be better. By watching her strive to be the best she could be through trial and experience, I learned to live my life the same way.

As I shared in my bio page, as a result of my mother becoming terminally ill when my daughter was in 2nd grade, we spent a good part of her final months creating what she referred to as "The Parenting Notes". They were to be used as a sort of reference guide in the years ahead when I would be raising my daughter without the benefit of her support, wisdom and input. It was a labor of love and has continued to be what I hold dear to my heart during the frequent moments of missing her. And now it is apparent to me, all these years later, that their value is far too great to be kept only in my mind and in my private journals for my use only.

Combined with my personal experiences as a mother and grandmother, my formal education, my professional experience as a parent coach and the wisdom of my mother who saw 5 children through their teen years, I am thrilled to offer you

"The C.P.R Program for Parents & Teens:
Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula."

The focus of The C.P.R. Program is two fold.

This program is designed to help you teach your children, at as young of an age as possible, positive problem solving skills to have in place BEFORE the onset of the teen years OR to adopt these skills, share them with your teen so that together you can resolve current conflicts and create a relationship built on mutual respect, cooperation and trust.

"The C.P.R. Program for Parents & Teens:
Conflict Prevention/Resolution Formula"
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Whether you are a parent of a teen currently in conflict needing relief from
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As a result of The C.P.R Program

• You will have the tools and skills to STOP the negative divisive confrontations that are currently wreaking havoc on your relationship with your child.
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• You will be able to create a relationship with your child based on honor, trust, personal responsibility, mutual respect and unconditional love.
  

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