Understanding the Law of Attraction in Childhood~Train vs. Re-Train

by denny hagel on March 13, 2011

IMAGINE! Where would you be and what would your life be like today if you had been aware of the power of the Universal Law of Attraction at work in your life when you were a child?

Society has created a multi-million dollar business from the many "self-help" and "how-to" books on the market that focus on the Law of Attraction. Every day I receive emails and bulletins announcing the latest and greatest techniques to receive your heart's desire using the principles of the law of attraction.

I am not disputing the value of many of these ideas. I know the law of attraction works. I know it is at work all of the time for everyone regardless of age, positive or negative. I also know that most everything on the market is designed to help adults alter their thoughts and perceptions learned during childhood to allow their intentions to manifest. But what if we, as parents, could change this for our children?

For example: Let's say your heart's desire is to own a magnificent beachfront home.

As a young child you spent family vacations on Cape Cod. You were raised in a "middle class" family with modest means so your family's vacations were camping trips. That was great fun, but you always admired the luxurious homes that other people vacationed in and sometimes even owned!

You remember the family conversations that took place as you would drive by these exquisite houses:

Your father would say, "What a waste. People with that kind of money should think of a better way to spend it…"

Your mother would say, "I am glad I don't have to clean a house that big…no one needs a house that big!"

Your older brother would say, "I am glad I don't have to mow that big yard…"

Here's the confusion…

All of this is being said while everyone was obviously admiring the property! You knew they admired it because when the property first came in to view, the comments began with things like, "Wow! Look at that house; it's awesome, right on the beach, and look at the size of that yard!"

To the young mind, these are conflicting messages. On one hand, a beautiful home on the beach is very impressive and exciting, but on the other hand, it must also be a bad thing because the people who own it are selfish and wasteful… and let's not forget, who would want to have to work so hard to maintain it?

These conflicting thoughts are embedded into your mind during the years that children are most susceptible to absorbing information. Your thoughts contain this negative confusing message about owning a beachfront property and the people who own them. These thoughts are stored away in your subconscious mind and they become a part of who you are without your awareness, choice or consent.

Now, fast forward to the point where you are a successful business person. You still find that you are drawn to those magnificent beach front homes and decide that you want to own one.
You are aware of the Law of Attraction, the power of positive thinking and have learned through many publications about the process of manifesting. You begin by clearly putting out your intention, you focus on how it is going to be when you realize your intention and are living in that awesome home. You are doing everything that all of those self-help books on the law of attraction have told you to do. You have even created a vision board with pictures of the beachfront homes of your dreams. You put your focus on owning that house, and yet it doesn't happen.

In response, you purchase one more self-help program. This one, "The Missing Secret" by Dr. Joe Vitale, is designed to explain why; why if you are doing everything these books and programs have told you to do are you not seeing your intention manifested?

As you work through Dr. Vitale's program, the answer takes you back to those childhood vacations and those conflicting messages that took root in your subconscious mind. The limiting beliefs that said…"Who would want to be selfish and wasteful? Who would want all that extra work?"

You argue within your mind that you do in fact want that beach house, but as you are now learning, you don't want it in your subconscious mind! Your thoughts that have been stored in your subconscious mind override your thoughts in your conscious mind. Now, you learn that in order to receive what you truly want in your conscious mind, you need to "re-Train" what lives deep within your subconscious mind!

These limiting beliefs that say people who own these beautiful properties are selfish and wasteful and that having such a grand home is way too much work, needs to be removed. With work and dedicated effort, this can be done. This is good news. You are confident and determined and so the "re-training" process begins.

Parents with this knowledge and who understand this concept have the opportunity to greatly impact their  children's lives.

The first and by far the most important is to begin by monitoring the thoughts, opinions and perceptions you impose upon your children.

In addition, you can "train" your children by empowering them with an understanding of their power to choose to have a positive mindset that allows for all possibilities for all people, encouraging them to form their own thoughts, rather than automatically accepting the thoughts, ideas and opinions of outside influences without carefully examining them. You can teach your children that they have the power to choose what thoughts they will accept as their own and which thoughts are negative and need to be discarded.

Putting in the effort to "train" your children to choose and accept only positive and healthy views, opinions, and thoughts will remove the need to eliminate limiting beliefs and "re-train" their minds when they reach adulthood. Thus, empowering them with the skills to intentionally create the life they were born to live now and in the future.

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Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coaching, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 150 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention.

Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her to live according to the principles of the law of attraction long before it became a household term. Subsequently she has purposefully studied and practiced the law of attraction for the last fifteen years. Her formal education was in early childhood education, psychology, and substance abuse.

She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, and created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book. She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working with parenting and the law of attraction. Denny Hagel is the author of "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "Mini-Me Syndrome", “Parenting Using the Law of Attraction” and Becoming an Awakened Parent".

  • http://twitter.com/SusanMcKenzieWY Susan McKenzie

    This reminds me of the passage in the New Testament that says a “double-minded man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord” … that he’s like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. Asking with faith, believing, requires a clear focus. I’ve been double-minded for too many years… and it’s just like you’ve described, all those childhood conflicting messages! Time to clean house :) Thanks, Denny, for another beautifully written and valuable article!

  • http://www.debpilgrim.com Deb Pilgrim

    Thanks Denny for not only a great article but a wonderful reminder of the amazing role we have as parents.

  • Beau Henderson

    The “allowing” step is the last and biggest hurdle to clear. Great article about programming the mind correctly. Children are highly impressionable and have limitless potential. Thanks for your wisdom!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks for commenting Beau! You are absolutely right…children see no limits to their capabilities until “we” point them out!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I appreciate you stopping by and commenting Deb…parenting is such a beautiful experience…we get an up close and personal view of an amazing soul exploring the journey we call life! Life is Good!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I love the correlation with Scripture…that is what I find most amazing…nothing really new “under the sun” just different ways of presenting the same laws of life…a clear and focused mind accompanied by a belief and expectation that our heart’s desire will be. Thanks for commenting Susan!

  • http://www.annemariecross.com Annemarie Cross

    So very true Denny. Many years ago when my youngest was around 9 and my eldest 11, I was trained in NLP and learned the powerful affect our words and actions can have on our beliefs and actions. It was then that I changed the way I parented AND thankfully so.

    My children all know that they may not have the ability to change or control other people’s thoughts or behaviors, however they certainly know they can control the way it makes them feel. Very important message. Here’s to reframing and retraining!

  • Victoria Gazeley

    I grew up in one of those homes where we heard there was never enough and rich people were crooks. Of course, we don’t realize the ramifications til so much later. Thankfully, I’m usually able to catch myself if I ever feel compelled to tell my son “we can’t afford it”. I’ve never felt that way, so it’s usually fairly easy, but every once in awhile it comes up out of nowhere. Fascinating. Thanks, Denny.

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks for commenting Victoria. These beliefs when put into our programming as children are so deeply embedded they become a part of who we are…so difficult to reverse totally.

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  • http://twitter.com/alexandrawow101 Alexandra McAllister

    Thanks, Denny, for the reminder. I was also raised in a home where I was told that we were poor and that it was never going to change. Thank goodness, as I got older, I was able to get the help I needed to get that negative thought(s) out of my head. God bless you for sharing.

  • Gary Hyman

    A great reminder Denny. Much of what we currently are are molded from our past thoughts, many of them being negative. I totally believe, that we as parents, CAN change this for our kids. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://www.internetsuccess4you.com/ Sally K Witt

    What a great thing to teach children!

  • Meire Weishaupt

    This is such an inspiring post Denny, and reaffirm the importance of our thoughts, and opinions and the way we pass them to our children!

  • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

    “Putting in the effort to “train” your children to choose and accept only positive and healthy views, opinions, and thoughts will remove the need to eliminate limiting beliefs and “re-train” their minds when they reach adulthood.” This is why we do what we do! Love this! I have made my own mistakes and would love to see others understand the effects it has so they can choose wiser.

  • http://twitter.com/LisaBirnesser Lisa Birnesser

    Great post, Denny. It’s so important to be conscious of how we respond to children’s dreams. That can stay dormant in the subconscious and impact the future plans of children. Thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/sarahkuglin Sarah Kuglin

    Great read Denny, very inspiring and something we must all remember! Thanks for sharing!

  • http://anitafiander.com/ Anita Fiander

    Great message and we do have to be conscious of how we respond to childrens dreams.

  • http://twitter.com/Jilleysue Jill McCarthy

    I love your blog and have sent many of my friends your way to read. Great stuff

  • http://twitter.com/JulieMcAdoo Julie McAdoo

    Thank you so much for your insights! I had not thought of that, and I’m sure I make those kinds of limiting statements all the time as I rationalize why I am happy with what I have and would not want more. We adults understand why we say such things, but it is very contradictory and even dishonest. Great insight!

  • http://twitter.com/JustPamelaGail Pamela Gail Johnson

    Hi Denny, love the example of a beach front home … great post as usual.

  • http://twitter.com/kimgarst Kim Garst ツ

    IMAGINE! Where would you be and what would your life be like today if you had been aware of the power of the Universal Law of Attraction at work in your life when you were a child? Right? What a difference it would make!

  • Dawn Lanier

    I actually grew up with parents that encouraged me to appreciate that thoughts are things, and that you will block your good by focusing on doubt or fear. I consider myself very fortunate to have learned to see and expect the positive early in life. Wonderful post!

  • Delia

    Amazing how we pass onto our children things that were passed onto us without even realizing it! Thanks for bringing awareness, I love your blog and updates on your Facebook page, Denny!

  • http://www.facebook.com/rwardlow7 Rebecca Wardlow

    Denny ~ What a great post! I enjoy how you tied in the beach house :)

  • http://assistsocialmedia.com/ elizabeth Maness

    love this Denny! I Have worked really hard to do just that. I always tell the girls they can do what every they want..;0 They believe they have the power to think about something so hard they can make it a reality.;) I love this notion they have and it can happen!

  • Amy

    What an interesting post, Denny. I haven’t heard about this in relation to parenting, but I think when the Law of Attraction makes sense to you personally, weaving it into parenting is almost intuitive. It will certainly help me to be more conscious of my thinking and the messages I’m sending to my sons. Thanks for sharing this.

  • http://www.sherievenner.com Sherie Venner

    Yes, those conflicting messages can do so much harm…because children see that our behavior is not congruent with what we say. Those limiting beliefs that are instilled in childhood can linger for a lifetime if they aren’t released. Excellent post, Denny!

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  • http://twitter.com/merylbeck Meryl Hershey Beck

    Denny–How great to take this to the area of parenting. Kudos to you!

  • http://twitter.com/NormaDoiron Norma Doiron ´*•჻.

    It makes sense that it would work with children. Very innovative, Denny! You’re the best…

  • Vicky

    Great post and very inspiring. Thank you for sharing Denny.

  • Susan Myers

    Once you get this–> learn that in order to receive what you truly want in your conscious mind, you need to “re-Train” what lives deep within your subconscious mind, you can have anything you want! Great post Denny!

  • http://www.helenabowers.com/ Helena Bowers

    What you say makes so much sense. Your blog should be required reading for all parents!

  • Lorii Abela

    This is great
    Denny! It is a very effective tool to raise children – empowering them with
    the skills to intentionally create the life they were born to live now and in
    the future.

  • http://twitter.com/EdmundSLee Edmund Lee

    I can’t wait until the day I have children and I can teach them how to utilize their mind in this manner :)

  • http://DesignerRobRusso.com/ Designer Rob Russo

    Great points here, denny. My wife and I are trying to re-train our brains while (hopefully) training our kids’ brains the right way.

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