• http://BethHeilman.com Beth Heilman

    Having four kids (and still raising one of them), I know what you mean about working with each child’s uniqueness. Love the recipe analogy!! Thanks for a wonderful article!!

  • Anonymous

    Denny, when I see the effect of parents NOT knowing what you’re sharing these days … in the form of my adult coaching clients who are dealing with all the baggage they absorbed as kids … I think this information should somehow be distributed through the schools, or churches, or something!  So vital!

  • Tamarah

    I love that you look to honor the child in the parenting process.  Each one IS so unique that the parenting process will be as unique as well.  This parenting style does seem to require more effort on the part of the parent to learn and develop different skills to help the kids become their best selves.  Challenging but worth it I’d say.  I have a lot of work to do here!

  • http://www.ad-virtualassistance.com Anastasiya Day

    Great article! I don’t have kids, but when I used to work in a school, as a teacher I had to approach all kids in a different and unique way. The key is communication  and the best ways is to listen to the kids… although it wasn’t easy when I had 25 kids in the class… Thank you for sharing!

  • http://www.thechoicedrivenlife.com Olga

    You know when we raise our kids in their uniques way; they become better people and we become better people as well because we are challenged to grow our personality as well. It is a win win situation. Most of the time parents get in a powerstruggle with their children which is absolutely NOT necessary.

  • Jen

    Denny-I just LOVE the questions you posted!  These are great things to really think on and ponder!  Thanks for sharing! 

  • http://www.positivecalm.com Solvita

    Thank you Denny for posting such an important information for parents. It is a real eye opener for many ~ especially about criticism!

  • http://www.followgrandmapat.com Patcruickshank

    Sure enjoyed your article especially your baking analogy about akjusting the temperature the cooking times!   I raised 4 children and really found this to be true. 

  • Donaldwells

    I love being all this good advice… and I’m getting it all for free!

  • http://CarlaJGardiner.com/ Carla J Gardiner

    As a fiery grandma of four who loves her grandchildren like crazy I am so glad I am not in your position, Denny. That position of raising grandchildren can at times detract from the privilege of being a grandma. Although I know you love them terribly, it is more fun to truly be the grandma and not the disciplinarian, nurse, chauffuer and maid to the darling kids. I give you many kudos my friend you have more endurance than I…especially after returning from vacation with ours…I was pooped from days spent at the beach building sandcastles and beach combing.

    I really like your comment about the “right and wrong” way of raising up each individual child according to each family’s standards. This is so true and as a grandma I found myself biting my tongue more than once last week. We have to allow our kids to be the parents we raised them up to be and bask in the wonder of just being grandma.


  • AJ

    Great post Denny!
    You give great advice on one of the hardest jobs we can ever have, raising our children.

  • http://www.travelwritingpro.com Claudia

    Denny, the sets of questions are powerful way for us parents to stay focus on the right things.

  • http://lyndeutsch.com Lyndeutsch

    Excellent article and most helpful!

  • http://twitter.com/CarolGiambri Carol Giambri

    Great article Denny.  I love the questions and yes no two children are alike so that has to be taken into consideration parenting each child. 

  • Wil

    Denny, This was a very helpful article for parents and anyone involved in bringing up children.
    Thanks for sharing it with us.

  • http://www.thekidscoach.org.uk Naomi

    There is definately not a right or wrong way. I think parent by gut use what you know about what your parents did to parent you and take the bits you admire/liked and then listen to their advice and take from that too. There is so much advice out there about parenting but you need to filter it out. The questions are a great prompt for many parents who perhaps are not getting the response they want from their children.

  • http://pathtolifesuccess.net Hughie Bagnell

    Thank you Denny for once again sharing your great wisdom! …Hughie

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    You are welcome Hughie!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Agreed…which is why it is so important for parents to be clear on what they would like their parenting journey to accomplish, otherwise how can the necessary choices be incorporated. Thanks for commenting!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks Wil! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I appreciate you commenting Carol…always so supportive! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I appreciate your comment Claudia!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    It is interesting how the lines of motherhood and grand-motherhood can become blurred due to circumstances beyond our control…regardless of our situations, we love them with all we have! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks Pat!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    You’re very welcome Solvita! Thanks for commenting!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Well said Olga…I am always in favor of “win-win”! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    I am sure you were an amazing influence on your students!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    You are right Tamarah, the best gift we give our children is a parenting mindset that is free from limiting beliefs! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    Thanks Sharon, I couldn’t agree more!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

    You are very welcome!

  • http://www.pamelawrightsolutions.com pamela wright

    Thanks, Denny for this very thoughtful article!  I love that we (parents) can change the recipe!!

  • Joanie McMahon

    Another great post Denny

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  • Daniel Tortuga

    I  love  the   “Cake”   recipe   to  produce  a   competent  child/adult.  
    Ja,  Ja..   bake  for  18  years:)
    Give  them   Roots  &  Wings
    P.M.S.S.   ..Physical,  Mental,  Spiritual,  and  Social  Skills

  • Daniel Tortuga

    I  love  the   “Cake”   recipe.     Hmm..  Bake  for  18  years:)
    Give  them   Roots  and  Wings.
    PMSS..   Physical,  Mental,  Spiritual,  and  Social  Skills.

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  • ArmyWife82

    I love the way you wrote this. It was very easy to read and understand. I am a first time parent dealing with the terrible twos and it has been frustrating for both me and my son. I cannot wait to get your book and so happy I saw this while you book was still on sale.

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